The simplest expression is always the right expression – Yes means Yes, No means No and YUP, that’s consent for you.
With the kind of diversity that we grew up with there are many variation to one thing, it just sounds different but means the same, such as : No | Naah | Nope | Na | Nohoi | Ji Nahi | Ledu…
So if all of this means no then why is it god damn difficult to understand. How are people so dumb to not understand or acknowledge this simple word?
It is as random as you suddenly bump into someone’s house and you go raging towards their bedroom…why BECAUSE they said – DO DROP IN SOMEDAY about a few years ago.
No if your answer is YES then please double check for the siren sound that keeps haunting you from behind. It’s just like moving into your ex’s house and asking him to make space so that you can bargain for a few days before you figure out a new house. IMAGINE …..No ways that’s a blunder, that too without consent. So why is it that we understand and respect consent and acceptance in such situations but struggle to get it when it comes to intimate relationships?
You know where the question arises when we start to THINK based on random hints and convince ourselves we can read nonverbal cues. Let the doomsday set because my friend there is no such thing as nonverbal consent; that's just an assumption. Since when did turning around start to mean acceptance, approval, or a clear YES.
Well just think about it…there could be various meanings underlying it. Something as simple as they are avoiding you? Because silence certainly doesn't mean YES, unless there is something else that is fishy.
Only an enthusiastic, active, informed, and happy YES constitutes consent - one that leaves no room for imagination.
If you think it through, Bollywood songwriters have created a dangerous delusional world of love that can get you arrested for stalking and harassment, and you might end up in jail for everyone's safety. To enlighten you further a nice cute date or any such activity does lead to consent. It simply says that “That was a great day.”
Another news flash: Consent given initially can be withdrawn at any time because people's minds can change.
It’s always too brave to take the step and recheck on the simple thing - "Are you saying 'No'?" This makes you more attractive and intellectual.
Respect and accept consent as adults. Don't claim to be a mind reader based on facial expressions. Respect is key in this conversation. It begins with a definite, verbal YES.
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